What Happens When One Twin is Excluded?

Written By: Fran Pitre 

Twins arrive as a set, a pair, a side-by-side little couple of womb-mates turned room-mates. Some of us often refer to them “the twins”, especially when they arrive after or before a singleton or two. For those of us who have more than one set of twins, calling each them “the twins” may be confusing, but that’s beside the subject!

What happens to our twin duos when they get older and begin to socialize and become involved in sports and other activities? What happens when one twin girl is asked by a friend at school to be her best friend? How does the other twin feel? Is this other twin automatically invited in activities that involve the other two girls simply by virtue of her twin status? Are the twins assumed to be an inseparable set … or, is one excluded and treated simply as a sibling of this classmate’s best friend? What would happen if one twin was invited to a birthday party and not was other?

Another example would be a set of 10-year-old set of boy twins who are both interested in a spot on the school soccer team. If one twin is a stronger player than the other, is it assumed that both will make the team regardless of the fact that one is not as strong a player as the other?

As You Sit and Stare…

To all the moms at Toddler Tuesday Mall of America- As told by Jennifer of Twin City Sweetpeas blog.

As you sit and stare, I lift my two, thirty pound toddlers out of the stroller, moments before they start objecting to being in it. Nope, they won’t just sit in their stroller to watch the Pirate show. They have never liked strollers and go to leaps and bounds to escape them… literally. They are curious and love to explore beyond their boundaries.

As you sit and stare, I help them put on their “leashes” and wonder how many of you are objecting.