Ten Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me About Parenting A Child With Special Needs

By Natalie Umphery.

As a mother of ten kids, including three sets of twins, you would think I would have had parenting covered. At the age of three, within my oldest set of multiples, my son was diagnosed with mild/moderate autism with the ability to speak and communicate, along with ADHD. With all that being said, I wish that someone would have told me the following ten things about parenting a child with special needs.

1. A lot of people just didn’t understand why my child was different and would blame it on my parenting skills or lack thereof.
2. I would have quite a few mommy melt-downs. I’m not ashamed to admit that difficult outings to places like the library can be devastating experiences.
3. I would constantly be making sure that my son got the proper education and fair treatment that he needed, and constantly fighting to keep him in a regular classroom. If your child needs special attention, then he should get it. My son is very bright and doesn’t need to be in special education classes.

Meet our Twins of the Day: Austin and Reid

Happy Holidays from Twiniversity and Safari Ltd.

Meet Austin and Reid

Nominated by: Jennifer Gilsan

Age: 8

Home State: Pennsylvania

What makes your twins rock?!

They have been a blessing in our lives since their first cry. They had a tough start with a month in the NICU but came out strong and healthy. As the years went by, we had our next obstacle with PDDNOS (Autism Spectrum) diagnoses for both. After picking myself up and dusting myself off, then came the hard work of pulling them out of their shells and fighting for what they deserved. I can’t begin to tell of the numerous therapies, doctor visits, supplements, special diets and on and on that has brought my fighters to the strong, smart, loving boys they are today. They are in 3rd grade and have been without support since 1st Grade. They have many friends and are at the top of their classes. There is no sign of Autism at this time and most people would never know the struggles they have gone through and what they have achieved. I was told at age 2 that they would not attend a public school and may never speak. We proved them wrong!!!

What is a recent accomplishment?

Honor Roll, Martial Arts, Tee Ball and Archery

What are a few of their favorite things?

They both have similar interests in riding quads, taking care of animals on the farm, playing x-box, hunting and archery, legos, drawing and reading

What do they like most about being twins?

They are together 24/7 and are completely lost without each other. Quite ironic since from babies on through till about 3 they didn’t even know each other existed with their Autism. They will be life long best friends 🙂

How have they changed you?

My experience raising Reid and Austin has changed me in so many ways and all for the best. I was very materialistic and took for granted having a healthy “normal” child was just expected. I realized just what it takes to be a good mother and put your child first always giving up everything in your life to make theirs’ the best it can be. The love of a mother for their children is like no other and I would give my life for their success and happiness in life.

What is your #1 tip for twin parents?

Don’t sweat the small stuff…..get some sleep when you can and it is true that it does get easier 🙂

Austin and Reid, we hope you enjoy these pretty amazing prizes we hand selected JUST for you! Happy Holidays, we hope you enjoy them.

Ice Dragon

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Midnight Moon Dragon

It’s probably best not to call this Midnight Moon Dragon “four-eyes.” Those talons look ready for action. Safari Ltd® Dragons include the most colorful, creative, and varied dragon toys available. Some of our most intricate professional sculpting and eye-catching hand painted designs can be found in this collection. They are perfect for inspiring a young imagination or adding to an impressive collection. Safari Ltd® has been creating quality, value-priced replicas for three generations, and these dragons continue that tradition. Recommended Ages: 4+

Happy Holidays from our Family to Yours!!!